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To be honest, all women love gifts and expect them from their men. And this quality is inherent in us not by some notorious commercialism. A woman perceives gifts from a beloved man, primarily as:
The way to take care of her
Showing Attention
Expression and reinforcement of love.
On a subconscious and instinctive level, gifts for the fairer sex are associated with a man's ability to support her and future offspring. But let's not go into the psychology of instincts. In fact, the fact that a man gives gifts to his woman is a completely normal process in a relationship.
A man by nature is less emotional and sensitive, but more pragmatic and responsible. Because of the predominance of these qualities, he himself no less needs the same emotionality and warmth. Therefore, with gifts, a man expresses his attention and love, which he cannot always express in words or convey sensually. Seeing at the same time, the admiration and joy of a woman, he himself becomes pleasant and joyful. In such a simple way, there is an interchange of positive emotions and, consequently, the strengthening of relationships.
But why then do most men not give gifts to their women and ignore this way of courting and showing love? After all, even beautiful, charismatic and, it would seem, beloved girls often they complain about it.
Reasons why a man does not give gifts can be very different. Let's consider the most common.
Excessive pragmatism
There is a type of men who believe that gifts corrupt and spoil a woman, especially if they are expensive. Like, she will quickly get used to such an attitude and will be with me only because of the gifts. No, this does not mean that he will not give you anything at all. Most likely it will be inexpensive trinkets or things that he considers really necessary.
What to do?
Show your man that you love him without gifts. Do not beg for anything, and if you suddenly give something, then sincerely rejoice even at a mere trifle. Usually men with a similar position are simply constrained and notorious. They may have already had a bad experience. Therefore, it is in your power to prove that you love them, regardless of gifts and financial situation. But, and when it does “melt”, you can already gently ask or hint. It is desirable at the same time to confirm the actual need for a gift.
Greed
Alas and ah, but greed is inherent in some. Especially if a man is hardworking, pedantic and stingy with the manifestation of emotions, most likely he will be stingy with gifts. It is very difficult for this type of man to part with his hard-earned money, especially if he also saves up for something.
What to do?
You can't write anything here. You either have to accept your man for who he is, or try to re-educate him. Although the chances of this, let's be honest, are small. But, psychologists advise that in this case you can ask to buy you a specific thing without any hints. Directly and in the forehead. Of course, you should not go too far and become impudent. Your task is to show the man that giving and buying what you need is a completely normal and proper phenomenon. Usually such men, although greedy, are well aware that any relationship, especially if they are valuable to them, requires investment or the so-called barter. The greedy know the price of everything. Ask dosed and completely calmly, without a drop of excitement and emotion.
Loss of interest
The main reason why a man does not give gifts is a loss of interest. Have you noticed that gifts are mostly given at the beginning of a relationship, during the candy-bouquet period, or when a man is trying to win a woman? And this is natural, because. at this time, interest is fresh, the desire to achieve the lady of the heart, and in the presence of love - just to please. But, alas, if a man has lost interest in you or your relationship has become a part of his life for granted, then he is unlikely to want to perform feats and bestow on you. Of course there will be gifts on holidays. But after all, we sometimes want surprise gifts, a bouquet of flowers or romantic date just.
What to do?
Try to refresh your relationship and at the same time yourself - appearance, outlook on life. Change the style, hairstyle, demeanor. Become a little cold and self-sufficient, take up some hobby. In a word - become again a mystery and interest for your man. But, again, do not play the snow queen too hard and arrogantly.
Indifference
This reason why a man does not give you gifts echoes the previous one. But still they have a fundamental difference. If in the above case, the man simply loses the incentive, motivation or freshness in the relationship, then in this case, the man does not care. He is indifferent to your needs and feelings and most likely he just uses you.
What to do?
In this case, there is only one way out - to part with such a man.
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Blame the woman
There is a type of woman who does not know how to accept gifts or compliments. Hearing compliments, they blush and get lost, and when accepting gifts, especially expensive ones, they say something like: “Well, why was it so spent” or “Not worth it” and something like that. Thus, a woman, with her alleged modesty, discourages a man from any desire to please her in this way in the future.
What to do?
First of all, learn to love and appreciate yourself. After you respect yourself and know your worth, you will begin to accept gifts correctly. But, this does not mean at all that you should say thank you with a proud look. No, the main thing is to accept them with dignity and sincere gratitude. Just do not skimp on this very gratitude. If a man sees how immensely happy and grateful you are, he will want to see you like that again and again.
In conclusion, I would like to give a simple but very effective advice that works flawlessly in almost all cases.
Dear ladies, it is easy to achieve something from a man, you can caress and caress again! In this concept, we put the meaning of affectionate behavior, tenderness and true femininity. Remember that all men are being affectionate. It can achieve grandiose results, but in no case do not try to "reach out" with claims, tantrums and discontent. At the end of the article, I would like to quote Professor Preobrazhensky from the work “Heart of a Dog”:
“Weasel is the only way that is possible in dealing with a living being. Terror cannot do anything with an animal, at whatever stage of development it may be. This I affirmed, I affirm and I will affirm. They think in vain that terror will help them. No-sir, no-sir, it won't help, no matter what it is: white, red and even brown! Terror completely paralyzes the nervous system.
