How to get rid of your wife's lover and return her to the family

The topic is rather slippery, and it should be said right away that sometimes you can develop an impeccable plan, follow the prescribed points exactly, but you will not succeed in separating a lover from his wife. Why? Because the main reason that drives their actions is love. If there is love, the suffering husband can only wait until it is exhausted (and the spouse will return at the moment when you have already forgotten to think) or vice versa - it will grow into something more (the spouse will not return, but at that moment you will also forget to think about it ).

When there is no love, but only passion, and the missus simply decided to escape for a while from the annoying family way, then it’s easier. In such a situation, the husband must certainly act in order to return his soul mate to the family from another. How to do it?

Let's start with the fact that the phrase: how to get rid of a lover is not entirely successful. Immediately there are pictures of proceedings with the help of assault, duels and other "male" methods. So, just about a lover who has taken or is taking a woman away from you, you need to think the least. In fact, you don't need to think at all. It’s worth puzzling over how to return your wife to the family, what to do or not to do so that she suddenly understands that her act is wrong, and you are exactly the one she needs more than anything else.

There are three ways aimed at keeping your beloved near you. Two of them are absolutely opposite to each other. About them a little later.

The essence of the third is ... doing nothing, that is, waiting for the situation to resolve itself.

It is most acceptable for passive men who prefer to turn a blind eye to what is happening or for some reason (not love) are afraid of losing their spouse. At first glance, this is the easiest way. Actually - nothing of the sort. Inaction is the worst punishment for the human psyche, especially in this situation. But we will not now evaluate either this method or those husbands who resort to it. Let's just say that he also has the right to exist.

But the first two methods are effective. And the pluses here are that they not only encourage a man to win, but also strengthen the psychological state - self-confidence, a positive attitude (as far as possible in such conditions) and give the main idea that is indispensable for everyone: I am not sitting idly by, I I am doing something.

So, what are these methods of struggle? Consider.

Method number 1: give your beloved everything that another gives

Such advice is found all the time, it is on the lips of most psychologists, and women, judging by numerous sociological surveys, consider it the most successful incentive for creating a happy family. Yes, it's possible. However, the method does not work in all cases. Every woman's personality structure is different. There are many beautiful people who are simply infuriated by the ideal behavior of their own husbands. So be careful - this approach may be unsuccessful. If the husband has applied this method and sees that he does not save, but rather aggravates the situation, tactics should be changed immediately.

But for now, let's take a closer look at our method number 1:

• If the wife has a lover, give your beloved what the other gives. The advice concerns, first of all, the sexual and romantic side of the relationship. Stock up on toys from the sex shop, watch adult movies, and CHANGE SEATS for lovemaking. Think carefully: if your beloved walks to the left, then something interesting happens to her there. And most importantly, prohibitions are violated there, there is an adrenaline rush. So break it too. Together.
• Scandalte. If you are a very accommodating and quiet person in life, throw a scandal. Surprise your spouse with unusual behavior, and also give both of you a reason to speak out. And yes, do not forget that the scandal can end in unexpected passion and bed.
• Kill the household! Few people know how to ward off the hated life from the family. It is necessary not to sit still! Start traveling together. If finances do not allow, ride bicycles, go to the pool together, jump with a parachute. By the way, extreme also exacerbates emotions and feelings. After that, you can have unforgettable sex.
• Come out into the light. Sitting at home with friends is good and comfortable, but think about who cooks on the table, who cleans the table and does the dishes at one in the morning? Most likely not you. Start having lunch, dinner, or going out with friends more often. In public, you behave differently (after all, you won’t go to a restaurant in sweatpants and you won’t relax in front of the TV), there you are more likely to be the way your spouse loved you.
• To separate a lover from his wife, you must surprise your beloved, give flowers and pay attention more often than you are used to. Give compliments, because a woman loves with her ears. Get away from the banality. Do not present gifts purely on March 8 or Valentine's Day. Change tactics - do it once a week. It is not necessary to spend a lot of money and drag home a bouquet of a hundred and one roses. Enough of something modest, even imperfect, but from the heart. She must feel that from the heart. But do not present household gifts - coffee grinders, ladles and other utensils - they get bored every day anyway.

• Surround the chosen one with care, make her feel that you are not indifferent to family chores. After all, care is not only financial security, but also a timely response to a request. For example, repair the faucet (don't wait for the 50th reminder). Believe me, an adequate response to requests is much more important than flowers, money and other fuss.

Try to act in this way. If it suits the personality of your beloved, you will soon find that the wife has returned to you and no longer craves love on the side. Of course, a man will need to make supernatural efforts not to betray himself, not to break loose, to be calm and balanced. But if he loves, then he will definitely do it.

Method #2: Do the opposite

The "do the opposite" way can be used like this:

1. The husband knows his chosen one so well that he is confident in this method and uses it right away.

2. The spouse does not know his soul mate very well, therefore, at first he tries to separate from his lover by method No. 1. If it does not work, he proceeds to the second.

What is the point here? You probably guessed that, using this method, you should not pay special attention, give gifts and go out of your way to prove your advantage. Especially if this is exactly what happened in your family before the betrayal: an attentive, caring husband, constantly showing his soul mate how dear she is.

Why the chosen one did not particularly appreciate the efforts of her husband is a secondary issue, but also worthy of attention. Here you need to remember the following: if the marriage was made by calculation or the unfaithful never loved her chosen one, because marriage became a salvation from a previous unhappy love, then even “doing the opposite” will not help. In this case, drastic measures are necessary, for example, divorce.

This method will only work if the bride married you for love, but eventually started an affair on the side.

So, how to drive the missus away from another man: method number 2.

• Live your interesting life. Show that you are busy, passionate, you are interested in what you do. But do not ignore your beloved, share your impressions, radiate positive, and then ... run away. Supposedly where you feel good. Do not doubt that the missus will immediately suspect that you have another and switch from her "love" emotions to your behavior. It is quite possible that she will lose her desire to run to the left, because she will feel that she is losing you.
• If before an unpleasant story, you were caring and exemplary, stop being so. Do not call, do not ask where, what and how, give up the habit of indulging the wrong one with surprises and taking it with you into the world. Let him think that someone else already has such privileges.
• How to separate the traitors yet? Don't worry about your spouse's business. Get by with the banal “how are you?” and a kiss on the cheek on duty at a meeting / leaving.
• Sex is the main reason why a woman determines how much she is needed or not needed by her chosen one. Show that you feel good without sexual relations. Ignore.
• Forget about any contact with the missus' lover. She finds out that you met and then everything was gone: here it is, a reason to think that jealousy has overcome you. Do not text or write a letter to your wife's lover either on her behalf or on your behalf. Such a method is below your dignity. Be patient a little and see for yourself - by acting in this way, you will quickly return your beloved.

The opinion of psychologists

As for the debate about the effectiveness of the above paths, many psychologists argue that it is necessary to start from the second one. According to experts, the psyche of most beautiful people is arranged in such a way that attention can only be attracted by causing jealousy and suspicion. If you do not give out anxiety and other true emotions, you will sow a seed of doubt in the soul of your chosen one. Her passion for another man will fade a little, and over time (if you do not give up) will disappear altogether.

In the same way, it’s really possible to return the already departed, supposedly forever, soul mate. The only problem is that not every male representative will cope with the task.

But whatever it is, try, try, act. In both cases, you will need a lot of patience and iron self-control. Be confident in your actions, do not doubt yourself, experiment and see that the efforts were not in vain.