6 terrible habits that will ruin your relationship
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Habits are second nature.
It is very difficult to break habits, especially when they develop over the course of a long-term relationship.
But some habits can destroy even strong bonds and alienate the most loving partners from each other.
Here are six of the most annoying, according to psychologists, habits that can play a cruel joke on you. Be sure to pay attention to them and, if possible, eradicate them in order to save the relationship.
What destroys relationships
1. Wait for the initiative from the partner
It is a mistake to believe that you should be focused primarily on waiting for the initiative from your partner. In any case, it was precisely this tactic of behavior that was instilled in many girls in childhood.
"A man should be the first to take steps" - so we are used to. And, following this advice, we constantly waited for the initiative from a potential partner.
However, if you stick to this strategy all your life, you can come to the fact that you will develop a habit of constant waiting.
And even when you have already established a permanent relationship, it will be difficult for you to eradicate it.
Not only does this habit keep you from enjoying life and fulfilling your own needs (whether in a new or long-term relationship), it can also send the wrong signals to your partner, who will simply think that you are not interested in the current relationship.
To counteract this bad habit of waiting, try at least occasionally to take the initiative as well. Thus, you will feel more in control of your own destiny.
Recall those moments when, having taken the initiative, you reaped the benefits of positive results. This psychological tactic is the best way to get you to do something.
The same goes for your relationship. Think about when you took action and the result benefited you. This may be enough to encourage you to feel that you are in a position to manage your relationship normally.
The results will probably surprise you, because your partner will be very happy to see you show initiative and take some action.
2. Constantly arguing about the same things
In fact, arguing about the same things is a very annoying habit.
Regular arguments and disagreements can destroy even the strongest relationships.
Perhaps you are always right with depressing accuracy. Disagreement with your partner about a particular daily job or responsibilities leads to constant quarrels. It should be remembered that it is always better to compromise with your soulmate.
Try to find a time when you can calmly talk about what's bothering both of you, and come up with a plan together on how to solve this problem.
For example, you constantly have arguments about who and when should cook or wash the dishes. Set aside time for discussion, sit down, take your time, make a schedule, make small changes to your daily routine.
If both of you decide that the decision is fair, this consensus will eventually lead to the desired result, and then the disputes will disappear. The main thing is to go towards each other.
If everyone continues to pull the blanket over themselves, nothing will work, disputes will arise again and again, and, ultimately, lead to quarrels and breakups.
3. Take your partner for granted
Perhaps this is the most common habit in long-term relationships - to take a partner for granted.
What's wrong with that? In a way, taking your partner for granted is a good sign because it means that you and your partner feel like you can totally rely on each other.
It's nice to know that, to some extent, your partner can handle your occasional outbursts of anger or irritation, or that you can dress up in front of him without shame or embarrassment.
However, very often such an attitude towards a partner plays a cruel joke in a relationship. For example, in some situations when you need to thank for the help and just say thank you or praise your soulmate for the work done, you do not.
And all because you take his words, actions, for granted.
Try to change this attitude, take the time to thank him and sometimes praise him. Let your significant other know that he (she) means a lot to you, and you appreciate his (her) support.
4. Being too serious
You may find yourself laughing and having fun with friends or colleagues outside of the home more than you do when you are with your partner.
Preoccupation with family matters, dissatisfaction with work, low pay and other things, makes many people forget that there are simple moments of joy. But sometimes things happen that are funny and you just need to laugh at him.
If you do this with anyone other than your partner, this is not a very good sign for both of you.
The usual routine can become easier if you start laughing together and from the heart. Scientific studies show that laughter prolongs a person's life, and laughter with your loved one strengthens relationships, making them stronger and more trusting.
If you feel that your relationship lacks good jokes, laughter, and a little spark, it might be worth working on the current situation.
Go to a romantic comedy together or watch a movie at home in the evening after a delicious dinner prepared together and always with love.
5. Lunch and dinner not together
The modern way of life, its fast and hasty pace lead to the fact that we do not always have time to have lunch or dinner in normal conditions with our family and friends.
As a result, the daily inconsistency of schedules leads to the fact that we rarely see each other, we devote little time to each other. And it's so great to have lunch and dinner together.
