How to destroy a relationship?

I'm sure you've heard many times that relationships are a two-way street. Yes it is. Women are just as responsible for relationships as men.

If you think that everything is bad in your relationship, because the partner behaves somehow “wrong”, think about it, maybe the problem is not in him?

I have compiled a list for you...

… 10 most common female mistakes that destroy relationships with a man

1. Words hurt

Men are physically stronger, but women have another advantage - word control.

A typical female mistake in a relationship is to throw harsh words, humiliating a man and making him ashamed.

Words are like... toothpaste. As soon as they come out, they can no longer be returned back to the "tube". No matter how sorry you are, the damage has already been done. And even if he says that he forgives, the negative imprint will remain.

Try to use words not as a weapon, but as a healing balm with which a man can be calmed, encouraged and cheered up.

As a last resort, follow the saying: “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything!”

2. High expectations

The desire to receive more from a man than he can give you often becomes the cause of his moral oppression. As a result, this becomes one of the factors that destroy relationships.

For example, he is just starting to climb the career ladder, and you want a cottage in the Maldives and seriously demand this from him.

In such situations, when a man realizes that he cannot make his beloved happy (read - “fulfill her desires”), this can hurt his dignity.

In this case, your expectations become programming for failure and disappointment.

Try not to demand rather maintain in a man.

3. Sarcasm

This is the fastest way to show a man that you don't respect him.

A flurry of criticism closes him emotionally, and then the man leaves altogether to look for kindness elsewhere.

The same goes for sarcastic facial expressions.

4. Ridicule and humiliation in front of others

Criticism in private is one thing. But in the presence of other people - completely different.

You make him either accept the role of a loser, or start to defend himself, enter into a conflict and eventually hate you.

And by involving friends/relatives in such situations, you force them to take sides. For what?

That's right - extras from her relatives and friends, who are engaged in the same "pecking".

If it becomes a habit for you, a way out of a destructive relationship can be found not even at your suggestion. And at the suggestion of relatives, in whose imagination your man can become a real monster.

5. Rejection of intimacy

While women need an emotional connection, your man needs the same on a physiological level.

When you talk about problems and experiences, be prepared for the man to offer his own solutions.

It's not necessary to do that what they advise, but listen and say thank you.

7. Undermining authority

If you voluntarily give up the role of leader in the family, demanding responsibility from a man, try to respect this.

It is not easy to lead when the "wards" openly criticize you.

It's easy to criticize "bosses" by saying that you could do better.

8. Eternal "sour mine"

Constant dissatisfaction with everyone and everything is another clear example of how a woman destroys relationships.

Remember that the goal of a relationship is happiness. Moreover, both partners should work on this.

If you think that other people should make you happy, you will never reach this state.

You alone are responsible for your own happiness. Remember this simple truth!

Everyone is irritated and upset. But you shouldn't blame anyone for this.

Think about it, would you like to build a relationship with a person who every day is darker than a thundercloud?

9. Ignore and interrupt

I am sure that at least once in your life you have had to find yourself in a situation where someone deliberately ignores everything that you say, that is, simply ignores it.

The reverse situation is when you are constantly trying to “insert 5 cents”.

Try .

If you want to ask a question, wait until the man finishes. Do not interrupt, even if it is some banal story, the topic of which you are not particularly interested in (fishing, football, computer game).

In no case don't leave without listening to the end, is the clearest example of disrespect!

10. Choosing the wrong man

You once again act according to a template that leads you to a relationship with the “wrong” man.

Pay attention to how you perceive a new man when you meet. Do you notice some minor flaws, but tell yourself that they will then be eliminated under your influence?

Man who you start dating will change habits drastically.

If problems appear already at the dating stage, a serious relationship will only exacerbate them. Therefore, ignoring clear signs that a man is not suitable is one of the main female mistakes, for which you then have to pay.

How to avoid mistakes in a relationship with a man?

This list of typical female mistakes with men is, of course, far from complete.

It describes only the most frequent Problems, having discovered which, you should immediately.

Well, if you don’t notice anything like the above, perhaps it’s still in him.

But this is a topic for a completely different conversation.

Goodbye until the next article.

With faith in your success

Yaroslav Samoilov.

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